As the school seeks to ground its practices in research, it’s worth noting that studies have shown the positive impact of gratitude and appreciation on child development.
5.2 The Personal Impact of Appreciation
For example, research by Froh, Sefick, and Emmons (2008) found that students who practiced gratitude showed increased positive emotions, optimism, and life satisfaction, as well as decreased negative emotions.
“When we appreciate each other, we feel happier, more connected, and more motivated to learn. It’s something we can all feel, even if we can’t measure it.” Added Ms.Jenna.
The reason we all crave appreciation, the very essence of this desire, is simple yet profound: we all want to be seen for what we contribute. This statement resonates deeply within the halls of Empathy School and beyond, echoing a universal human need that transcends age, culture, and circumstance.
Reflecting on this, Ms. Jenna, the empathy class teacher, shares her thoughts with her colleagues during a staff meeting. “I think it’s important to remember that at the heart of appreciation is the need to be seen for what we contribute,” she says. “It’s not just about saying ‘thank you’ for the sake of it. It’s about acknowledging the unique value each person brings to our school community.”
As the conversation unfolds, Ms. Jenna finds herself pondering her own experiences with appreciation. “Do I have my own story?” she muses. “Absolutely. I remember a student from my first year of teaching who was struggling with confidence. I made a point of appreciating his efforts in class, no matter how small. Over time, I saw a transformation in him. He started participating more, taking risks, and believing in himself. It was a powerful reminder of how recognition can change lives.”
This personal story is a testament to the transformative power of appreciation. It’s a reminder that when we take the time to see and value the contributions of others, we not only uplift them but also foster a culture of empathy and respect. In this way, Empathy School becomes more than just a place of learning; it becomes a community where everyone is seen, heard, and appreciated for who they are and what they bring to the table.
Joe’s story is a heartfelt illustration of the profound impact of appreciation. As a teacher at Empathy School, Joe often shares this personal tale with his students to underscore the significance of gratitude in our lives.
When Joe was 24, he faced a challenging situation: his beloved grandmother had lost her house in the housing crisis that swept through America. Determined to help, Joe managed to buy back the house from the bank at a favorable rate and gave it to his grandmother to live in. The joy he felt in being able to assist her was immense, a testament to his deep love and respect for her.
Years passed, and the memory of that act of kindness remained a cherished part of Joe’s life. Then, one day, his grandmother expressed how proud she was of him for what he had done. Hearing those words, even a decade later, moved Joe to tears. It wasn’t that he had been seeking recognition or appreciation; rather, the beauty of his grandmother’s gratitude touched his heart in an unexpected way.
Joe often reflects on this experience, saying, “I love helping, but I also love knowing how my help has impacted other people. I’m so proud that my grandmother still lives in that house that I was able to help her get. I’m so happy just knowing that she’s happy. But it’s also very lovely when I get feedback. Appreciation is feedback. Look at it that way. Yes, that’s it. It’s a very lovely experience.”
Through his story, Joe teaches his students that appreciation is not just a form of feedback; it’s a powerful force that can bring joy, validation, and a sense of connection. It’s a reminder that our actions, no matter how small or how long ago, can have a lasting impact on others and that expressing gratitude is a way of acknowledging and honoring that impact.